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"To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders." ~ Lao Tzu

Note: Each lesson is meant to be read separately, so some repetition may occur. This writing style is intentional, as each of these lessons will be repurposed into separate YouTube videos & Medium articles. Thank you for your understanding!

Triple Wisdom ON: No Nut November, Sex, and Relapse

1- 5 Facts Everyone Should Know About No Nut November (What NoFap Gurus Don’t Tell You)

When was the last time you j*rked off?

You don’t get asked that every day (especially by a stranger), right?

Well… there’s a reason I’m asking.

With No Nut November around the corner, there’s a lot of misleading info online, and as a coach in this space, I feel it’s my responsibility to set things straight.

Here’s what you need to know about No Nut November (and why the last point is the most important one):

1. The Science Behind Semen Composition

Believe it or not, semen isn’t just about reproduction. It’s actually packed with a bunch of essential vitamins and minerals that your body needs to stay healthy.

Research shows it contains Vitamin C, Magnesium, Zinc, and B-12, among other nutrients. All of them are crucial for your health and some are even proven to be powerful antioxidants.

If you don’t know what antioxidants are, they’re like protective shields for your cells. They protect you from stuff that can cause inflammation which is linked to most diseases such as cancer, heart disease and diabetes.

2. The Energy Demands of Spermatogenesis

Your body is constantly making sure you have enough sperm to create babies through a process called Spermatogenesis.

Right after ejaculation, however, there is a short-term replenishment phase where the body has to make up for the loss. That’s when there is an increased demand for nutrients and energy in your balls, which leads us to the next point…

3. The Hidden Cost of Daily Self-Pleasure

While NoFap gurus often focus on psychological benefits, they rarely discuss the physiological impact of frequent masturbation.

When you j*rk off every single day, you are literally wasting essential energy and nutrients that could have been used for other more important stuff.

4. Benefits of Semen Retention

According to a 2003 study, semen retention increases testosterone levels by 145.7% on day 7, although it does go back to normal levels afterward.

As we all know, testosterone is the most important masculine hormone. It increases energy, confidence, courage, well-being, muscle growth, and even deepens your voice.

Here are some of the other benefits you can get from it:

• Reducing hair loss: semen contains a protein called kerotin. It’s the same protein found in your hair and it’s essential for its health. Due to the decrease of keratin in your body, excessive masturbation is associated with hair loss.
• Boosting your athletic performance: Mike Tyson and Muhammad Ali, two of the greatest athletes of all time, famously practiced semen retention at least 21 days before a fight. If that doesn’t convince you, I don’t know what will.

5. NoFap vs No Nut November

There’s a reason why it’s called the No Nut November, not the No Nut LIFE!

The NoFap community promotes a lifestyle of total abstinence from masturbation forever, claiming that it will significantly improve your life, but there are many problems with that statement that I have covered in previous articles and on my YouTube channel.

The No Nut November is a challenge, not a lifestyle. Just like a marathon, it invites people to push their limits and build a stronger character, but it’s always followed by a period of rest.

There are incredible benefits to a life of mindful moderation, here are just a few of them:

1- Healthy Stress Relief: Masturbation releases dopamine and oxytocin (the “love drug”), which lowers cortisol, the “stress hormone.” In our high-stress world, a little natural stress relief is a big plus.

2- Prostate Cancer: A Harvard study found that men who ejaculated 21+ times a month had a 31% lower risk of prostate cancer compared to those who did so 4–7 times, highlighting potential health benefits.

3- Self-Awareness (Mindfulness): Society’s view of love is often conditional, but real self-love involves embracing both light and dark sides of ourselves. For me, mindful masturbation can be a form of meditation, a way to confront hidden parts of my psyche. Getting comfortable with these shadows leads to true confidence and real change.

4- Shifting the Story (Self-Image): As Joseph Campbell said, “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” From my experience, it’s not masturbation or porn that holds power over people — it’s their fantasies and conditioned attachments. Facing these “dragons” can free you to rewrite your story, making sexuality a source of creativity, connection, and growth.

My final message to you:

Remember, the No Nut November is a great way to enter the world of sexual mastery. On top of its psychological benefits, it has many biological benefits that might sound surprising to most people. The trap we must avoid however is to fall into the NoFap culture where masturbation is demonized as a whole.

It’s not about complete abstinence forever, but rather about being kind to your body and not draining it mindlessly. Your future self will thank you for the nutrients and energy you conserve today.

2- How to Stop Pushing Sex Away (3 Myths About Lust That Hold You Back)

Why did you start reading this lesson?

Be honest… wasn’t it your curiosity about sex?

It’s strange, isn’t it? How can something so common be perceived as such a taboo?

What if… lust wasn’t so “wrong” after all? (Don’t tell anyone I said this)

Let’s question a few myths together and see if it really deserves its bad reputation…

Myth #1: Lust is inherently sinful

Many of us have been conditioned to believe that lust is a sin, something to be ashamed of. But is this really true? Lust, at its core, is simply a strong sexual desire. It’s a natural, biological drive that has ensured the survival of our species.

Rather than viewing lust as inherently wrong, we could see it as a powerful energy that, when channeled appropriately, can lead to deeper intimacy, creativity, and even spiritual growth.

Myth #2: Embracing lust leads to promiscuity

Another common misconception is that acknowledging and accepting our lustful feelings will inevitably lead to reckless behavior. In reality, suppressing these feelings often leads to even more unhealthy expressions of sexuality (just look at the effects of sexual repression in religious institutions).

By openly acknowledging our desires, we can actually make more conscious, intentional choices about our sexual behavior.

Myth #3: Lust and love are mutually exclusive

Many people believe that lust and love cannot coexist. However, in a healthy relationship, lust can be a beautiful expression of love. It’s the spark that keeps the flame of passion alive in long-term partnerships.

Instead of seeing lust as the enemy of love, we can view it as a complementary force that enhances emotional intimacy when combined with genuine care and respect.

How to stop pushing GOOD sex away?

So, if lust isn’t inherently wrong, and if it doesn’t have to clash with love, what’s stopping us from embracing it fully?

Like many things in life, it often comes down to how we define and perceive it. The meaning we give to something shapes the way we experience it.

Instead of viewing lust and love as opposing forces, what if we expanded our perspective and added a third element? This is where the concept of sexual energy comes in.

Could this “new kid in class” change the quality of our sex lives forever? Let’s see…

Lust vs Sexual Energy

I don’t know about you, but breaking things down into clear comparisons brings me a lot of clarity. Here are 5 of my favorite ways to differentiate lust and sexual energy:

Lust is selfish.
Sexual energy is selfless.

Lust lowers your energy.
Sexual energy raises your energy.

Lust is greedy.
Sexual energy is creative.

Lust is in the mind.
Sexual energy is in the body.

Lust is about instant gratification.
Sexual energy is about sustainable gratification.

With those new perspectives in mind, don’t you think it might be time to stop pushing away one of our greatest gifts in life?

My final message to you

Sexual energy is the most powerful creative force in the universe. It’s the energy that creates life itself.

I believe that when we stop ignoring it and start embracing it, we unlock our full potential as human beings.

We become more alive, more passionate, and more connected to ourselves and others.

Trying to suppress it has been one of humanity’s greatest mistakes. Overindulging in it is our second greatest mistake.

Let’s learn how to use it instead of letting it use us and we’ll open the door to a quality of life we never thought was possible.

3- 7 Habits to Break the Relapse Cycle (It's easier than you think)

Relapsing f*cking sucks.

I know that because I’ve fallen into the trap literally hundreds of times.

Luckily for me, I also got to learn hundreds of lessons along the way.

The framework I’m about to teach you is the result of 10 years of experience summarized for you into 7 simple steps you can follow whenever you get an urge so that you break free faster with less pain.

Before we dive into the 7 Habits, there are a few crucial points you need to understand:

Relapsing is a myth

Or at least, it’s now what you think.

I believe that definitions matter because if we want to learn how to overcome something, then we better be sure we’re talking about the same damn thing.

I define relapsing as the act of breaking a promise.

If you decide IN ADVANCE that you will masturbate in 5 days, and then you do, that’s not relapsing.

If you choose to masturbate on the third day instead for whatever reason, that’s relapsing.

So when I say “7 Habits to break the relapse cycle”, what I really mean is “7 Habits to break the jerking off when you didn’t plan to cycle.”

Porn is just a coping mechanism

A good way to think about what we’re doing here is that we’re creating our own coping mechanism.

When was the last time you jerked off trying to escape some difficult emotion? That’s called a coping mechanism. We all have them.

If anybody tells you “I don’t need to cope” or “I don’t have any negative emotions” or “I feel good all the time,” that’s bullsh*t.

Being alive comes with difficult feelings that come and go. But in order for them to go, or at least for us to feel like they’ve gone, we need a way to cope with them.

For 10 years of my life, my favorite way to do that was porn and masturbation.

When you bust a nut, everything feels good at the moment, right? If you’re reading this, I’m assuming that it was yours too.

Whether we’re conscious of it or not, for most of us, the way we learn to cope is through masturbation. That’s why the porn industry is a billion-dollar industry.

The real question is, did you choose that coping mechanism consciously or unconsciously? Is it empowering your life overall or disempowering it?

Let’s make sure we choose our coping mechanisms wisely. So here are…

7 habits that would make relapsing so difficult… you couldn’t do it even if you wanted to:

1- Create an automatic habit

Urge = Anti-Relapse System.

Oftentimes, the biggest problem is that we know what we should do theoretically, but we completely forget about it in the heat of the moment.

It happened to me more times than I could remember.

I would find a solution, promise that I would apply it next time I have an urge, completely forget about it when I actually have an urge, and then remember it only after I relapsed.

That’s why I created an anti-relapse PDF that I now automatically open as soon as I have the thought of masturbating. You can download it for yourself here.​

2- Change your environment

Move outside.

Immediately go outside for a walk or a run. If you can’t go outside, do some push-ups indoors. Shifting your physiology will 10x the efficiency of the next steps. This is a non-negotiable.

The point here is that you’re also going to start noticing repetitive patterns in your internal states as you go through the journey. Don’t be surprised. Being aware of that stuff allows you to move through life with much more stability.

3- Remember who you are

Shift your identity.

Success is inherently built into your nervous system, but what success means to you is a direct reflection of your self-image.

See yourself as a failure, and you will fail. See yourself as an addict, and you will be addicted.

Your self-image is the most powerful driving force behind your destiny. Shift it, and your actions will follow.

Here are some examples of my favorite identity-shifting incantations:

“I am a sexual monk. What would a monk do?” “I am a sexual master. What would a sexual master do?”

“I am one with God. What would God do?”“I am on a mission. What would a purpose-driven man do?”

You can use mine or add your own. Make sure to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. For example: I am a sexual master ✅ vs I am not an addict ❌

The questions I ask are meant to trick my mind into becoming that person faster. I know a woman who lost 100 pounds just by consistently asking herself “What would a healthy person do?” This stuff works.

4- Remember what sexuality means to you

Shift your beliefs.

We already covered the power of your self-image, but what about your beliefs about sex?

Would someone who perceives sexuality as an easy escape from problems act differently than someone who perceives it as a vehicle for love and connection? The answer is obvious.

Here are the incantations I personally used to reprogram my beliefs around sex:

“Self-sexuality is a waste of time, love, and life energy.”

“The ultimate expression of physical love can only be experienced with a partner.”

“Sexual energy is a source of creative power and it must be used for greatness.”

Use these or create your own. Make sure they feel empowering and are focused on what you want.

5- Get inspired

Immerse yourself in inspiring content.

This could be the Off Pxrn Academy, a book, a podcast, or a content creator you admire.

The quality of your life is a reflection of the information you consume. Absorb that content until you feel inspired to create.

6- Take action towards goals

Master the art of sexual transmutation.

Use your urge as creative life energy. Set a new goal or choose an existing one, and take a small step towards its achievement.

You’ll be amazed at how powerful this energy is once you learn to channel it creatively.

7- Practice gratitude

Make a gratitude list.

Write down 10 things you’re grateful for at this moment. Express gratitude for the process you just went through. Celebrate your progress and the mastery you are developing over your sexual energy.

My final message to you

Remember, you’re not fighting against yourself. You’re learning to work with yourself. It’s just a habit, and if you somehow created it, it also means you can break it and create a new one.

So, my brother, next time an urge hits, pull up this list, take a breath, and remind yourself: you’ve got a plan. You’ve got tools. You’ve got a choice.

I truly hope these 3 lessons help you progress faster, suffer less, and find more joy in your journey of life

Remember, it's in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped. None of that stuff would matter if you don't take action. Knowledge is not power. Knowledge is potential power that can only be unleashed with action ✊

Stay wise,

Dani Banchev
​​Founder of the Off Pxrn Academy​

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